About Good Death Doula

My Journey

My mother died of lung cancer at the age of 39. As a high school student, I put my college plans on hold and became her main caretaker. From diagnosis to death it was eight weeks of caring for her at home. In 2018 I found myself supporting my sister-in-law along with my brother In her final days. I realized then how daunting it was for families to navigate this time - even with a wonderful hospice. Many of us take on the role of caretaker out of love but find ourselves unprepared for this critical role. When I was 49, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I still remember getting the news and the emotional paralysis that followed. Many things I thought were important fell away. Suddenly my job, schedules, errands, the busyness of my life faded into the background and I was left laser-focused and present for what did matter - my health, my family, and my friends. As a decade-long survivor, I have worked to maintain that focus of being present to what is important in my life through my daily meditation practice, connecting deeply with people, and being in nature. While some define a “good death” as one that is free from avoidable distress and suffering. I consider a good death as one where families can feel comfortable discussing their hopes, fears, and wishes in a way that creates intention and closure while incorporating wellness, peace, and beauty at life's ending. I work with individuals and their families as a journey guide through advanced care planning, resources, and support, as well as a spiritual guide. Navigating through hospice, vigil, disposition, and the grieving process with compassion, love, support, and understanding that this is a sacred time.

Bio

My end-of-life doula training was completed in 2019 through the International End of Life Doula Association (INELDA), I serve on the board of the Minnesota Death Collaborative (MNDC), and have begun a two-year Zen Buddhist Chaplaincy program at Upaya Zen Center in New Mexico focused on end of life care ministry. I practice at the Minnesota Zen Meditation Center (MZMC) on Bde Maka Ska in Minneapolis and serve on the Diversity, Equity, Inclusion, and Access (DEIA) committee. In addition to honoring and supporting people at end of life - racial equity, dismantling white supremacy, LGBTQA+, and climate change are all issues that are near and dear to my heart. Raised Catholic and now a practicing Buddhist, I honor and respect all faith traditions, denominations, rituals, or practices that bring comfort and connection.